Updated: Oct 16, 2020
This is the hardest thing that I have had to deal with in my life, the silent stealer of me! grief....
Grief is a multifaceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something that has died, to which a bond or affection was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, cultural, spiritual and philosophical dimensions
How do you deal with it?
Is there a right way?
My answer is,
Everyone is different......
Don't assume that somebody else can or will deal with grief the same way you do.
It's important to learn why people do the things they do when they experience this part of life so you can provide the correct type of help and support.
Grief is lonely,
Grief is painful,
Grief is absolute dispare,
Grief is total change,
Grief is losing yourself,
Grief is an overwhelming sense of loss,
Grief can help you see how strong you are,
Grief can teach you the preciousness and fragility of life,
It will teach you how to hit rock bottom quickly and a rough climb to your way through it.
I find alot of people judging others for "not knowing" how to cope, from their perspective, if you are concerned for an individual offer help and support discreatly as a friend and in no way insinuating they have a problem, devalue, one up them, or it's not ths normal way! thats when they push back.
We are all trying to cope in a very harsh environment, an uncaring, sometimes selfish world, that have too many roads to get lost down and many reasons to want to.
I want anyone who is going through grief or just needs someone to have a cry, breakthrough, laugh or whatever I'm here and I feel it, I will listen.
I'm familiar with and have experienced my fair share of this hurt in my life and I don't like to be alone in my grief or judge others for how they deal with theirs.
Your darkest days will one day be the thing that gets you through the some of the worst and on the other side sees you thoroughly enjoy your best days.
Love & Light Always🙏🏼
Go easy on yourself and let yourself grieve.
You'll never forget the person who has died. You might always feel sad when you think of them but as you take great care of yourself and as time goes on you'll remember the many memories that make you happy. Things will definitely get easier. Getting over grief might seem impossible at first, but just breathe and take as much time as you need. It's not easy, it's a very hard road but people do cope with grief and become happy again once they've worked through it.
If you feel you're stuck grieving longer than you'd like to be or that it's taking over your life get some support. Talking about your feelings and the person you've lost is usually a big help. Many people find counselling and holistic therapies help too.
Please find below some helpful links, and feel free to view and read their websites, or contact them if needed.
Sudden Death Support Association
0118 988 9797
An organisation to help relatives & close friends of people who die suddenly. It is run by people who have been bereaved by sudden and tragic loss.
They're available 24 hours a day and provide confidential support for people in emotional distress. They offer an unbiased, non judgemental service and can be contacted by telephone, letter, e-mail and mini-com. There's also a face-to-face service, available at their local branches.
08457 90 90 90
We offer confidential emotional support to children, young adults and adults by telephone, email and post. We work with callers to develop healthy, positive coping strategies, an inner feeling of strength and increased self esteem to encourage healing, recovery and moving forward with life. We also keep details of counsellors, agencies and support groups throughout the UK.
You can phone us on our Helpline number
01708 765200 or
This charity was set up to support the bereaved and help them understand their grief and come to terms with their loss. They provide help-lines for adults and young people affected by the death of loved ones or friends. There's also an email service.
0870 167 1677, 0808 808 1677 (Young people)
Cruse Bereavement Care Helpline
0870 167 1677
An organisation that offers general and practical advise, details on benefits and local cruse organisations to anyone who has been bereaved.